So, I am faced with a big bang question – How much should be spent on an engagement ring? You love a woman and you want to share the rest of your life with her, but does that mean mortgaging your bank account just so she can have a little glitter on her finger?
What is the significance of an engagement ring? I used to think women loved rings because of the beauty it brought to the fingers, but recently I have had cause to change my simplistic mindset.
So i decided to carry out a research and I found out that an engagement ring should be a symbol of the promise of marriage and commitment to join as one in a lifelong relationship as husband and wife. Traditionally, an engagement ring is not considered an absolute necessity in order to be married. However, engagement rings are common in the Western part of the world because it is seen as a pledge of love and a symbol that a woman is no longer available to be courted by other men.
The act of wearing an engagement ring also lets other men know that the woman’s feelings are “engaged by somebody else.” Nowhere in my research did I read that the value of the ring should equal the love you feel for the woman.
If you love someone truly can you not accept whatever symbol he has to offer? For example, I watched a documentary some weeks ago about a certain lady who made gorgeous rings from wood and I thought it would be romantic (and somewhat different) to propose with a wooden ring. However I was shocked back to reality when my colleague threw my idea into the bin.
She advised me to stop joking and purchase at least a gold ring, if not a diamond one. And I wondered, would my girlfriend refuse my proposal if the ring was not gold or diamond? Does that not reflect the mindset of the current crop of women we are forced to consider as marriage partners? Abi what has the value of the ring got to do with the value of the marriage?
A diamond ring I hear, can cost as much as $10,000 or more!!!!!!!!! So if I spend this much on a single item, how will we celebrate the wedding? How will I get a flat or even furnish it?
Seriously I think boyfriends should ask their girlfriends which they would prefer, an expensive ring or a well furnished home. As of today, I have not bought the ring, neither have I proposed because I cannot justify the huge expenditure.
So am throwing the question out to everyone here…….. How much would you spend on engagement ring?
My personal thought is that, it doesn’t matter how much millions you spend on an engagement ring, it doesn’t matter how much it glows, or how many diamonds are locked around the ring. What matters is the heart that is giving it and that which is receiving it. After all, we still see couples with the best rings going through hell in their marriages.
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