Good morning dearest ones,
Today I’ll like us to examine the “Yin & Yang relationship philosophy”. This philosophy has been preached to me many times by my significant other and to some extent I have tried to incorporate it in my relationship.
The philosophy of Yin and Yang revolves around complementary (rather than opposing) forces that interact to form a dynamic system in which the whole is greater than the assembled parts.
You are one part of the dynamic system, while your partner is the other part. You and your partner are to meant to complement each other’s characteristics and form a dynamic unit.
The philosophy advocates that life and relationships are about action and reaction. Every reaction is caused by a previous action and a distortion in behaviour on either side would lead to an imbalance in the chemistry of relationships.
So, if you act negatively towards your partner, that person in complementary fashion should be able to respond without causing further negativity.
When two becomes one, they take the form of Yin and Yang. It’s like the sun and moon, if the sun adds one more hour to its stay in the skies then the moon looses an hour and likewise if the situation is reversed. So any action, be it negative or positive from one party causes a reaction in the next party which invariably distorts the balance in the relationship either positively or negatively.
Applying this philosophy, one can assume that whatever reaction you are getting from your partner is as a result of your direct action or inaction (either present or past). If your partner is being negative towards you, you need to review your actions and adjust appropriately because you are the Yin to his/her Yang.
Let’s apply the philosophy to a real life situation, a warm nurturing woman marries an aggressive man, she’s able to soothe him and soften his rough edges with her words and actions. Now compare this to when a naturally abrasive woman marries the-same man, the combination becomes volatile.
It is therefore necessary to review the characteristics of your partner and adjust to fit that characteristic. Relationships are supposed to be dynamic and to ensure continued peace partners most be open to adjusting.
Like the yorubas say “an outside thief cannot break into your house without having an inside collaborator. Don’t be the inside collaborator!
For singles, it is best to match up with someone who complements your characteristics.
Questions for you to ruminate on:
1. Do you see yourself and your partner as a greater unit?
2. Is your relationship balanced?
3. Have you adjusted to complement your partner’s characteristics?
4. Has your partner adjusted to complement your characteristics?
Before we act or react today, please let’s consider the effect of such action or reaction on the balance of our relationships.
Here’s wishing us all a wonderful week and a re-alignment of our relationships.